• sorter_plainview@lemmy.today
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    10 days ago

    This is an everyday reality to me. Wife is very modern looking and stand out in the crowd due ti her curly hair.

    I have zero interest in fashion and cloths. I just wear a jeans and a shirt, which are usually the most common and boring type. I always wanted to blend in the crowd and disappear.

    In my country the class division is strong and more visible. My overall appearance will make me look like someone with a blue collar job. We moved to a new place recently and there were several occasions where many people mistake me for a worker instead of someone living in the building.

    The switch in tone and mannerism when they realise I’m living here is bloody hilarious and disturbingly sad. Rude work supervisors become instantly polite, there is ‘resident only’ lift, and the attender told me to take the other lift multiple times, and the list goes on.

    I really don’t like it, not because “I” get treated like this, but people discriminate aginst workers. Now I have to live with it.

  • Peppycito@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    My neighbor said “I see you walking around with your daughter. And your grandkids.” my wife really liked that. Fuck that guy.

  • Cousin Mose@lemmy.hogru.ch
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    10 days ago

    My wife is from Mexico and I from the US. Living in California what I really dislike is that when I’m without her, other Hispanic people assume I know no Spanish and I always feel like they think of me as some racist Trump supporter (since I’m white). But when I’m with her we’re usually conversing in both English and Spanish so I’m considered less threatening.

    I also think there’s just a male/female dynamic here too. When I walk our dogs in the neighborhood almost no one bothers to greet me or make conversation but when my wife’s with me it’s like everyone wants to be best friends.

  • CADmonkey@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    My wife is ~7 years younger than I am, but she’s one of those late-30’s women who looks 25. People ask me if she is my daughter.