• nandeEbisu@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      4 months ago

      I mean, if you’ve consented to a monogamous relationship and your partner violates that consent it’s a big deal.

      If they find that certain aspects of the relationship aren’t compatible with what they want and they can’t work it out, they should leave the relationship. Notbl saying it’s easy, but that’s part of the responsibility that comes with being in a committed relationship.

        • DreadHunterZorro@lemmy.zipEnglish
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          4 months ago

          Cheating is unnecessary. Find someone who shares your values instead of lying to yourself or your partner. Then this wouldn’t be an issue in the first place.

          Also, in another comment chain you made a statement about monogamy being unnatural. So, what if it is? There are plenty of societal expectations we have that go against human nature that most people would agree are beneficial. For example, fighting is a basic human instinct. It’s done to assert dominance, protect or vent frustration amongst other reasons. This can be even noticed in animals. But, in our society the expectation is that you restrain yourself instead of becoming violent. Unnatural =/= bad.

          Just some food for thought.

            • Zoot@reddthat.comEnglish
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              4 months ago

              I think you need to preface this by saying “You have no desire for monogamous relations” but you absolutely can not say “All people want to be polyamorous”. Only some people do, and it certainly would be nice if they were not pressured into something that doesn’t work for them.