Server (navidrome) + client (feishin, symphonium) + music (soulseek, bandcamp, ripping your old cds) + remote access (tailscale or something else if you’re savvy).

You can buy the Tailscale/Mullvad plugin, I think that’s the only way to make the two work together “seamlessly”. I didn’t want to pay for that, so I put a reverse proxy and tailscale on another VM and pointed the reverse proxy to the services I want to access remotely with tailscale.

I never tried a paid one - might be the next step?

I’ve found no way to do this, tried everything. The question for me has changed to “how do I create a dummy google account for instances when I do seem to need to log in” and I’ve pretty much given up on this too. They require a phone number; I haven’t been able to get them to accept any kind of temporary number service/app I’ve found online, I could try harder to acquire some kind of more private burner phone or sim card but I feel like they’d just try to verify me once I no longer have access to the number and I’d get frozen out.