I never said it wasn’t derogatory, and yes actually, acknowledging that different ways to play the game are fine does absolutely make it okay. “Tell me ahead of time and I won’t play at your table”
“You won’t catch me doing that” ya bro they want to play the game the way they have fun and not force themselves to play it a way they don’t enjoy for the benefit of others. And instead of letting that be, you have to whine and okay the victim.
I mean, yeah absolutely and I agree. I didn’t say you were being nice, but the double standard where they think they get to tell people who they accuse of metagaming (whether they are or aren’t) that they’re playing it wrong and to do something else when they would go absolutely insane if it was the other way around has always triggered me immediately. Just let people play the game they wanna play it